<\/figure>\n\n\n\nIt occurred to me while reading today’s chapter that you could enlist the help of wise and kind people who you trust, to give you their feedback on your assessments. You want to avoid asking people who enjoy being critical, of course, or who get off on cutting people down to size \u2014 you’re better off avoiding that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But a truly honest friend, who won’t let you sugarcoat your strengths \u2014 and likewise won’t allow you to belittle yourself either \u2014 could be of immense help in this regard. Their ‘second opinion’ could perhaps assist you in avoiding the danger of self-deception<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nIn the end, you’ll still need to do the hard work yourself. No friend can complete this task for you… it’s called self<\/em>-assessment for a reason, and it needs to originate from you. But asking them “Is this an honest statement about my courage?” or “Is it fair to say that I need to work on this?” could illuminate where your oiesis<\/em> lies.<\/p>\n\n\n\nAnd then, of course, take their feedback with a grain of salt \u2014 they are also influenced by their own illusions and emotions, so in the end you’ll have to simply accept it as another input, another piece of information, and complete your final evaluation by yourself.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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